淘宝和牛牛爸爸

[p3] I have pledged that from today on I will not be satisfied unless I make every one of my students a fine violinist. Since my resolution is firm, although some of you may have no hope of improving, I am sorry but you will have to face your bad luck with no choice but to become fine players. For everyone becomes good if only he applies himself properly. [p3] I did not encourage them to advance in pieces. Instead, all the students did their best toward fostering a fine tone and musical performance. Let the student hastily advance in pieces: you will have a dropout. I won't do such a clumsy thing. [p6] I was fortunate enough, when twenty, to wake to a phrase in a book by an early nineteenth century agronomist Sontoku Ninomiya: “Read not ten thousand volumes; explore the logic of the heavens.” From that day, I followed his teaching to “penetrate the truth of great nature yourself, do not just read books,” turning my eyes to everything before me and to the natural world. [p12] In tal...

 [p11] Teachers and parents are inclined to think that a particular child who is slow in advancement compared to the faster students has no "talent." This judgement is very harmful and often discourages the child and parents, leading them to drop out. But really this slow stage may be an incubation period for the child. [p18] Competition is never recommended. Competition does more harms than good. The aim of the movement is not necessarily to make a musician but to help people love music and art.

 [p1-2] I have titled this work Teaching from the Balance Point because I believe that balance is central to both playing the violin and teaching. Therefore, a book about teaching the violin requires the word balance in the title. You will notice that at times the word balance will pertain to physical balance regarding posture and the position of the body, violin, or bow. At other times, the word balance will refer to finding the right combination of positive reinforcement and constructive criticism. At times the balance will be obvious, at other times elusive, and sometime almost mystical; however, balance is always there, underlying every aspect of teaching and playing. As you read this manual, look for the balance point or the allusion to it in every chapter, and you will find your way of deeper understanding. [p2] For those who want to know the whole story of Dr. Suzuki and his work, we have the film Nurtured by Love available on videotape . It tells an incredible story of a ...

p20：希望一人独处的念头始终不变地存于心中，所以一天跑一个小时，来确保属于自己的沉默的时间，对我的精神健康来说成了具有重要意义的功课。至少在跑步时不需要和任何人交谈，不必听任何人说话，只要眺望周围的风光，凝视自己就行。这是任何东西都无法替代的宝贵时刻。 p35：无论做什么事，一旦去做，我非得全力以赴不可，否则不得安心。将店铺随意交托给某个人，自己躲到别处去写小说，这种讨巧的事情我做不来。竭尽全力埋头苦干还是干不好，就可以心安理得地撂开手了。然而，如果因为模棱两可，三心二意以失败告终，懊悔之情只怕久久无法拂去。 p70-71：二十多年已经逝去，我也跑过了几乎与年数相等的全程马拉松赛次，可是跑完四十二公里后的感受，与最初那一次相比似乎没有多大变化。现在依然如故，每次跑马拉松，我大体都会经历相同的心路。跑到三十公里，总觉得“这次没准会出好成绩呢”。过了三十五公里，体内的燃料便消耗殆尽，开始对各种事物大为光火。到了最后，则生出“揣着空空如也的汽油箱继续行驶的汽车”般的心情。然后跑完后不久，曾经的痛苦可悲的念头眨眼间忘得一干二净，还下定决心：“下次要跑得更好！”任凭积累了多少经验，增添了多少岁，还是一再重复相同的故事。

淘宝爸爸今早打开邮箱，被铺天盖地的邮件吓了一跳。仔细一看，原来是全系上下在议论向COPSS请愿修改Fisher Lecture为Blackwell Lecture：Fisher生前倡导优生学，是种族主义者，应该坚决予以谴责摒弃，绝不能让他再继续享有统计最高奖的冠名权！ 种族问题时下因为George Floyd 的悲剧以及由此引发的大规模抗议又成为美国乃至整个西方社会的焦点。现在连统计界也不甘人后，积极表现。淘宝爸爸觉得，强调政治正确至此已经有点走火入魔了。COPSS当初用Fisher命名最高奖，考量的是Fisher对统计的开创性贡献，而不是他的人品行为。且不论Fisher的优生学言论放在他所处年代的时空背景下是否还有那么离经叛道，就算他真的人品有瑕，也不能就因此否认他统计祖师爷的江湖地位。Fisher已经作古大半个世纪，一生功过早已盖棺定论。大家实在没有必要在这个时候再把他老人家从坟墓里挖出来鞭尸。种族平等是所有人的期许，但努力的方向不应该是一场“破四旧”。

ISBN: 0-679-41308-1 Page 353: Johnny remained reasonably friendly with everybody during this, although he hated joint statements of any kind. Everyone came under pressure to sign them, including one or two of the younger staff who privately disagreed. One of Johnny’s personal definitions of a scholar was a person who did not sign manifestos that tabled joint emotions. In any complicated situation any thoughtful man should want to express his opinions in his own words, instead of baying in a pack like hounds. Page 369: Then comes the hour when people normally go to sleep. Johnny goes to sleep too. But to him sleep is part of his work. He believes much of mathematics is done sub-consciously. He will go to sleep serenely with an unsolved problem and wake at three in the morning with the answer: his mind has done it for him while he has slept. Then he goes to his desk and phones his associates. One of the requirements for an associate is that he not mind being awakened in the middle ...

妈妈的手镯 昨天，邓邓在微信上悄悄对我说，这个圣诞节，她想送妈妈一只手镯。我对此颇不以为然，取笑她“小媳妇会不会当得太谨慎”。我当然理解邓邓的想法：自古婆媳不易处，更何况往后大半年，老公远在天边，她要单独和婆婆一起住。可是妈妈一向善良好相处，邓邓一向正直讲道理，她们两个在一起，我有绝对的信心。我劝邓邓：“妈妈一生勤俭，从不穿戴任何首饰。你给她买的手镯，她不见得会戴。不仅不戴，说不定她还要怪你乱花钱呢！” 可是这一回，我误会邓邓了。 邓邓并不是小媳妇想要多挣婆婆的印象分。前两天，趁淘宝睡觉，邓邓和妈妈闲聊，偶然得知妈妈的行李箱里有一只国内朋友送的手镯。一只很普通的手镯，只要三十多元人民币。妈妈觉得好看，就随身带来了美国。因为怕抱淘宝的时候硌着又小又嫩的他，所以妈妈一直没有戴。 我印象中的老妈，一直很朴素，从不给自己买稍贵的衣服首饰。渐渐地，我忘记了自己的妈妈也是一个爱美的女人。这么多年，我竟从没想过送她礼物。上个月，邓邓要给妈妈过生日，我也取笑她“小媳妇会不会当得太谨慎”。我印象中的老妈，从不过生日。可是妈妈生日当天，邓邓买回蛋糕，领着淘宝和视讯里的我，给妈妈唱生日歌的时候，妈妈别提有多开心了。我对老妈的印象，可是错了么？ 这个月，邓邓休完产假开始上班。白天，只有妈妈一个人在家照顾淘宝；晚上和从前一样，仍然是妈妈陪淘宝睡觉，半夜给淘宝喂奶换尿布。有两天淘宝吃顶了，肚子胀气睡不好，妈妈抱淘宝哄淘宝，自己根本睡不好。可妈妈为了不让我和邓邓担心，总是在我们面前夸淘宝超级乖，超级好带，她自己休息得超级好。后来，邓邓偷偷告诉我，有几天晚上七点多，妈妈等淘宝睡着，就马上自己也睡着了。妈妈，您要是真休息得那么好，能那么早就困了么？ 妈妈对淘宝超级好，每天给淘宝讲故事，陪淘宝聊天；妈妈对淘宝超级有耐心，不管多累都永远对淘宝笑哈哈。我和邓邓明显感觉到，淘宝和奶奶在一起的时候，觉得特别安全，特别幸福。邓邓说，她觉得自己又幸运又有点吃醋。幸运的是婆婆能干性格好，吃醋的是淘宝对奶奶咯咯笑的时候声音比对她笑的时候大！ 邓邓说，妈妈超级会带小孩，对淘宝超级好。这我一点都不意外，因为她也曾经把我照顾得一样好。小时候，老爸在蒋堂工作，一个礼拜只能回家一天。我跟着老妈在手术室值夜班，半夜醒来发现自己一个人躺在值班寝室的床上。那时候，我从来没有紧...